Next time before assuming things about a person; ask yourself a question.
Why would people act a certain way?
Why is this person conceded?
Why is this person condescending?
Why is this person so loud?
Why is this person always negative?
Why is this person so shy?
Why is this person crying?
Why is this person so quiet?
Why is this person always looking mean?
Etc...Etc..
My point is to keep an open mind about people before judging them. Most people are going through their own personal struggles, with family, work, school, relationship, etc. They may act a certain way due to the facts I mentioned or because of their up bringing. More than likely they don't even know that their acting like that. You don't know what that other person's situation is. They could of had a rough childhood, or is currently facing a difficult time in their life.
What could be affecting their lives?. Is there something you can do to help that person? Maybe they just need someone to talk to. Everyone acts a certain way due to their environment. Lets look for the good in people, and ignore the bad as much as we can. Life is too short to focus on all the bad things! Maybe that will make me a better person in the end. Maybe that will change how I react to people.
I hope this makes sense.
G.K.
It's a good perspective to have if you have the ability to tune out the consistent negativity while searching for the positives.
ReplyDeleteI used to share this ideal, but over the years i've realized that life is indeed too short. What i've recently started to realize is that no matter what good and positive aspects a person may have deep down, the overwhelming negativity only does one thing and that's bring you down to their level.
Although I would love to find good in every person I know and ever met, they have to be willing to display that good side and most times people just aren't willing to change, you've said to me atleast a hundred times this comment "that's just how they are.." and you're right. People are who they are, it's possible to befriend them and see their inner side but in my opinion, life is too short to try.
In simplest terms, this is how all the negativity has changed my outlook on life, this is the question I ask myself:
If I had to choose, would I rather surround myself with a bunch of negative people who constantly bring me down and stress me out, just so by chance I can somehow find some good in them.
or....
Would I rather spend my short time in this world with people who genuinely care about me?
The choice is obvious in my eyes, I have a few close friends and family who I care about, and who care about me, and then I have a bunch of people who most people would consider friends, although I barely talk to, barely see, they never make any effort and bring nothing but negativity to my already stressed out life. I'm planning on systematically removing all of them from my life, probably won't be too hard since I barely talk to them anyway.
I tried to see the good in people for a long time, I was dissapointed and hurt by what I found, I hope you don't become as jaded as I have and that you find a more positive outlook on life and the people you encounter.